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CULTIVATING A HEART OF GRATITUDE MEANS MAINTAINING THE CONSTANT REALIZATION
THAT IF WE GOT WHAT WE DESERVED, WE'D BE DEAD;
THEREFORE, ANYTHING IN EXCESS IS A BLESSING.



The CMLA 3 Rules:



Putting Christ at the center of your quest for love means treating your matches like a fellow child of God and following these 3 rules:



#1. Be Open Minded



#2: Be Intentional



#3: Be REspectful



DATING ADVICE





When it comes to Christian dating (and dating in general), there are some things to keep in mind as you embark on your journey. Here at CMLA, we have a few mandatory criteria, namely--respect the privacy of your match(es), refrain from any inappropriate or non-consenting sexual behavior, hold God up to the highest honor throughout the dating process. However, these are baseline requirements.


To really be successful in finding someone, we offer support through our free on-call dating coaches as well as the following tips and resources:


Getting in the Mindset:

  • Cultivate the right desires. Does she really need to be a 10? Is him being 5'11.5 really a deal breaker? At the end of the day, we all grow old and shrink.
  • Instead of “godliness”, look for growth in your partner’s faith. Keep an open mind. Everyone's moving at their own pace. It's not about the state we're at but the direction of our heart.
  • Men: take risks and be vulnerable so that you can lead effectively
  • Women: Be confident in who Christ made you to be
  • Men: until you're officially together, treat every potential match with respect as if they were someone else's wife
  • Women: until you're officially together, treat every potential match with respect as if they were someone else's husband


The First Date:

  • Choose a location that either suits both of you or suits the girl's needs (remember, she's spending the time and money to look pretty in advance)
  • You can offer to pick a girl up, but we suggest planning a central meeting point (for safety purposes...just in case)
  • If sitting down on the date, try to sit on the same side or at 90 degrees rather than directly across from one another. There's a psychology behind this.
  • Ask fun/ borderline ridiculous questions. You don't want the experience to feel like a boring interview.
  • Don't brag
  • Practice active listening
  • Be vulnerable
  • Share your walk with Christ
  • Don't scare them off by talking about marriage and kids right off the bat
  • Don't let the girl pay on the first date (I know this is a topic of controversy, but trust us...)
  • If you like a guy, you don't have to kiss on a first date, but you can show your affection by flirting while stroking his arm or touching him somehow (other than an awkward good by hug)


The Afterwards:

  • Remember that the outcome of a first date is not a "yes I will marry you" or "no I will not". Rather, it's a "yes, I'm open to learning more" or "no, this fundamentally could never possibly work". Keep an open mind, relationships take time.
  • If you're still saying no, are you self sabotaging? Take a critical look at yourself and ask if the reasoning for no is a fundamental deal breaker.
  • Don't fall into the common dating app trap of thinking this was just a disposable encounter and onto the next. There aren't THAT many suitable prospects as you think. Plus, you were personally matched for a reason and prayed over.
  • SO if you're open to getting to know that person further, let him or her know...and let them know in the next 24 hours. Don't play it cool. No one likes that.
  • If you're not interested, stay as friends. Who know's what can happen?
  • If you want to talk it over with one of our dating coaches (in addition to the feedback call), reach out to our team accordingly.



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NEED AN AWESOME DATE SPOT?



We've created the following list of excellent ideas and locations based on time of day, location, and price range



West Side



Day



Walk on the Beach

Dog Beach at Mother's beach

Urth Cafe $

The Whaler in Venice $

Rose Cafe $

The Getty Museum $



Night



Urth Cafe $

Huntley for Sunset View (Bar / restaurant) $$$

Rose Cafe$



Central



The Petersen Museum $

LACMA $

The Broad Museum $

The Farmer's Market $



The Petersen Museum $

LACMA $

The Broad Museum $

The Farmer's Market $



East Side



Roller Rink in Glendale $

Atwater Village $$



Roller Rink in Glendale $

Atwater Village $$



The Valley



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South Bay / Long Beach



Restaurants and Bars out on the Pier $$



Restaurants and Bars out on the Pier $$



Orange County



Rent bikes at Irvine Park

Rent bikes on Newport Pier



Bosscat Kitchen and Libations $$



Book Corner





We've put together a list of reading materials (both secular and spiritual) to serve as valuable resources when it comes to Christian dating in LA.



Dating



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Trust.



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Care.



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Biblical Manhood Refreshment





We are called to be spiritual leaders for our wives and families. We must first be a spiritual leader in our own lives.


Wherever you are at in your walk with Christ, it’s important to take pauses for reflection and refreshment. We saw Jesus do this by consistently withdrawing for prayer and recharge after performing works and miracles.


In Romans 12, Paul calls us to “be transformed by then renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is”. We focus now on renewing five areas of our faith, so that we may determine the will of God in our relationship with our partners.


We recommend five biblically based books as tools to renew your foundations of what it means to be a Christian man in:

  1. Faith
  2. Prayer
  3. Emotional and Personal Relationships
  4. Finances
  5. Discipleship

With fresh knowledge and discernment in these areas we can confidently lead ourselves and others on God’s paths.


Faith - Jesus Christ Himself being the chief cornerstone

Mere Christianity, C.S. Lewis

This is a classic for a reason. It refreshes on the core non-denominational truths of our faith and renews the excitement and wonderment of our Creator. Whether you’ve read it or not, do it again.


Prayer - Prayer is how we communicate with God, let’s get better!

A Praying Life, Paul E. Miller

An inspirational story of how prayer transformed the family life of Miller who simplifies prayer and routines. This is accessible book which will bring you closer to the Lord through prayer.


Emotional and Personal Relationships - Healthy relationships don’t just happen

Emotionally Healthy Spiritually, Peter Scazzero

While our spiritual life may rest on the Rock, our emotional health may not. A great book to explore some of the cracks in our lives we have ignored or may never knew existed. It’s very impactful to understand how our cracks and our partners cracks can crush a relationship.


Finances- It’s time to start talking about money!

God and Money, Gregory Baumer

We need to understand how God calls us to structure our personal finances, giving, and planning. Two Harvard MBA students take a biblical and methodical approach to guide in an under taught pillar of a Christian man’s life.


Discipleship - Become an effective fisher of men

Master Plan for Evangelism, Robert Emerson Coleman

"Few books have had as great an impact on the cause of world evangelization in our generation as Robert Coleman's The Master Plan of Evangelism.” - Billy Graham Nuff said



This path of renewal is like any other. It has a starting point, and this is it. We start by acknowledging Him, knowing He will make out paths straight (Proverbs 3:5-6) - A Praying Man



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